Empathy.

empathy [ˈɛmpəθɪ]

n

1. the power of understanding and imaginatively entering into another person's feelings

2. the attribution to an object, such as a work of art, of one's own emotional or intellectual feelings about it

 

 

This picture is a group of my friendship group that went to a pub quiz,

 I'm in the picture.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Its amazing the feeling that can be achieved when everyone in the room has positive energy towards each other, It sounds Hippie-ish, but it an amazing feeling, the feeling Banter usually breaks. Its uncommon to have a group of people in common, constant empathy with each as something is always going on that breeds paranoia or worry that stops yourself being that vunerable with a group of human beings.

 

Whats much more common is an empathy stage between two people, usually in a romantic sense.

Theyre has been many times where I have experianced this particular feeling and I usually remember those times as the happiest memories I have, that I frequently re-live in nostalgic thoughts, or over-romanticised dreams.

 

Usually these feelings of empathy are only experianced when the two are alone, or at least are left alone.

 

They are characterised by :

1. a feeling of an amazing connection with another human being. 

2. a sense of purpose and understanding of life, that makes everything worth living.

3. an unrealistic sense of happieness that makes you think that pherhaps those silly singers were right.

 

unfortunatly, due to the secluded and personal nature of the interaction between the two, whatever it might of been, it usually means when you see that person again amongst normal people its unbelievably awkward.

 

This, as it has been for me on multiple occasions, is very saddening, like an amazing chapter of your life is over. I dont hold a grudge against any of them except one, as I understand that its wierd when your out of the unrealistically happy comfort zone that you spent the time together in,

like a cliff,

or on a close friends Sofa,

or in the back of a car when music is playing so loudly that you accept it as your new reality.

 

The fact is, if you ever find yourself in one of these situations, and believe me you'll know when it is,

make sure you savour it, because if your anything like me, you will miss it a lot.

Its not the sex, or maybe not even with physical contact, usually in fact its either after the sex or just when your chatting.

 

The thing is though, by its very nature I dont believe this experiance can be shared between a couple, but I believe it favours better with two people who don't know each other, or at least based on my experiance I believe this to be true.

 

In theory a couple should be able to continue this feeling of empathy indefinitely but I believe its niave for a couple to assume that its required, as I've never achieved it in a relationship, but Im not a good example.

 

 

This is a picture of two of my friends who are now in relationship, they were both very drunk when this was taken and Myself and another girl were in the room at the time, yet they look so happy together.

Pherhaps being drunk is the key?

(Just so you know, they are hugging)

 

 

 

 

 

 

This aside, I just hope more of these experiances come my way, as they are, without a doubt, my favourite thing about life.

 

 

And to a girl called Becky that I thought I knew, I say I honestly don't believe you are the same girl I spent 8 hours on a cliff with watching the sun come up,

 

I will Honestly remember it forever.

 

These are just two silly teenagers, one of them was about to have what he considers the best night of his life I'm informed, the other is going to enjoy the night and then ignore the other for as much as they can.

 

Goodnight.